Have you seen the benefit of recalling the times we need forgiveness? Were you, like me, silently impressed with our need to have forgiveness? Failure to find forgiveness and to forgive can create sadness and loneliness. Have you ever seen a happy person who is harboring a grudge? I haven’t.
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Most parents are the experts on their children’s behavior. They know if little Megan is acting normally or acting up. But what they don’t know is how she feels when she obeys or disobeys. Why did she throw that tantrum and kick her mommy? Why did she, only one hour later,
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How many recommendations have you had on how to choose a mate? Did they include using Match, E-Harmony or some other online dating service? Blind dates used to be a method, which could often turn out to be disastrous. Recommendations from friends, family — or heaven forbid, your boss — can
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Where are your thoughts leading your marriage? Love has expectations. Fail to meet them and you can expect disappointment that settles into resentment and then develops into the precursor to divorce: bitterness. Respect is what we need to focus on. Respect for someone else begins in the mind. It is
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Bobby Fischer astounded the world of chess. When playing for the World Championship in 1971, he achieved the first shutout in Grand Master play. He finally beat Boris Spassky for the World Title. In his book, Bobby Fischer Teaches Chess, he tells us we should focus on the “end game,”
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Intimate relationships are not just about love. But without love, why would we even get involved? However, love needs constant nourishment to build its muscles. One of the ‘nutrients’ it needs is the ‘protein’ we’ll discuss here today. Intimate relationships require this nutrient Webster’s defines this ‘nutrient’ as “the obligation or pledge to
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How can one have a meaningful relationship without really knowing their partner? I submit that you can’t. A relationship requires commitment and no one commits to someone when they have no idea what they might do, how they think, what they value, and where the relationship might take the two of
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Would you call this a relationship conflict? Consider this scenario describing an all too common relationship conflict: “You’re not the person I married!” he yelled. “You used to take it — the pressure I mean. You’re home all day and all you have to do is look after the kids
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Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. ~ Abraham Lincoln What is the level of your marriage commitment? Investing in your marriage requires a commitment from all areas of life, especially those that directly touch on relationships. Some of these areas require some new insights — maybe even some coaching
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When emotions get involved (for good or ill) in our relationships, the intensity of the relationship’s experiences rise — usually, dramatically. Therefore, it is important to use emotions positively in relationships. Replacement Is a Great Way to Use Emotions Positively in Relationships Having trouble with changing your emotions? We cannot
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Think of the occupations that obviously need emotional intelligence: receptionists, salespeople, teachers, clergy, counseling, politicians, personal relations, coaching, and all leadership positions. The list never seems to end. Most occupations require interaction with people. And with people, emotions are always in play. For instance, imagine these: Doctors with no bedside manner Salespeople
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Sometimes the differences in how we express love or wish to receive it are obvious. Such obvious examples include the difference between the cool (some say “icy”), calm, collected NT and the warm, expressive, sometimes scattered NF. The NFs usually welcome human touch and give it freely. However, the NTs
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