Like me, you’ve asked and you’ve been asked, “How did you two meet?” Somehow that is always a fascination. But seldom — if ever — do we ask, “Where is your relationship going?” Or “What is your relationship direction?” Isn’t that a much more important question? What is our relationship
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In my state, we must have our cars inspected annually to be sure they are roadworthy. We cannot obtain new license plate tags without it. That inspection is forced on us if we want to drive our cars legally in the state. However, like me, you probably willingly give your
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While each of us needs help at some time in our lives (and if we’ll admit it, we need it often) for a variety of reasons, we find it very difficult to admit that we do… or worse, to ask for it even when we admit it. To paraphrase an
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As promised in our last post, we are about to begin a book study of Intelligently Emotional. I hope you’ll join us to discover how intelligent our emotions really are! Oh, yes! I can already hear the jeers and can see you replying with tongue in cheek comments. Then, I
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Are you struggling like I am to “simplify” your traditional holiday frenzy? It seems like the effort to find balance during the holidays often creates even more anxiety than the imbalance itself. How are those obligatory New Year’s resolutions coming along? Don’t you love it when people tell you that
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Forgiving ourselves or others can be more difficult when we aren’t listening to ourselves. Inner voices talk to us all the time, telling us if we are well or hurting, happy or sad, positive or negative. Our needs are conveyed to us by these inner voices and when we don’t pay
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Forgiveness means “forth-give-ness” or giving something away. It is meant to bless everyone — you and others. View it as a gift. Wrap it up in the soft colors of love and mail it with a smile, either outwardly or inwardly. The gift is greatest to the forgiver. How should you deliver
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Have you seen the benefit of recalling the times we need forgiveness? Were you, like me, silently impressed with our need to have forgiveness? Failure to find forgiveness and to forgive can create sadness and loneliness. Have you ever seen a happy person who is harboring a grudge? I haven’t.
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Most parents are the experts on their children’s behavior. They know if little Megan is acting normally or acting up. But what they don’t know is how she feels when she obeys or disobeys. Why did she throw that tantrum and kick her mommy? Why did she, only one hour later,
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How many recommendations have you had on how to choose a mate? Did they include using Match, E-Harmony or some other online dating service? Blind dates used to be a method, which could often turn out to be disastrous. Recommendations from friends, family — or heaven forbid, your boss — can
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Where are your thoughts leading your marriage? Love has expectations. Fail to meet them and you can expect disappointment that settles into resentment and then develops into the precursor to divorce: bitterness. Respect is what we need to focus on. Respect for someone else begins in the mind. It is
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Bobby Fischer astounded the world of chess. When playing for the World Championship in 1971, he achieved the first shutout in Grand Master play. He finally beat Boris Spassky for the World Title. In his book, Bobby Fischer Teaches Chess, he tells us we should focus on the “end game,”
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