It seems fairy tales rarely have anything to do with real-life relationships. Even though these stories typically include tragic beginnings, major misfortune, and shady characters, our expectations of these tales are that everything comes right in the end. Just as long as the heroes (obviously built to overcome adversity) “show up,”
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Forgiving ourselves or others can be more difficult when we aren’t listening to ourselves. Inner voices talk to us all the time, telling us if we are well or hurting, happy or sad, positive or negative. Our needs are conveyed to us by these inner voices and when we don’t pay
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Forgiveness means “forth-give-ness” or giving something away. It is meant to bless everyone — you and others. View it as a gift. Wrap it up in the soft colors of love and mail it with a smile, either outwardly or inwardly. The gift is greatest to the forgiver. How should you deliver
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Have you seen the benefit of recalling the times we need forgiveness? Were you, like me, silently impressed with our need to have forgiveness? Failure to find forgiveness and to forgive can create sadness and loneliness. Have you ever seen a happy person who is harboring a grudge? I haven’t.
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Most parents are the experts on their children’s behavior. They know if little Megan is acting normally or acting up. But what they don’t know is how she feels when she obeys or disobeys. Why did she throw that tantrum and kick her mommy? Why did she, only one hour later,
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How many recommendations have you had on how to choose a mate? Did they include using Match, E-Harmony or some other online dating service? Blind dates used to be a method, which could often turn out to be disastrous. Recommendations from friends, family — or heaven forbid, your boss — can
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Bobby Fischer astounded the world of chess. When playing for the World Championship in 1971, he achieved the first shutout in Grand Master play. He finally beat Boris Spassky for the World Title. In his book, Bobby Fischer Teaches Chess, he tells us we should focus on the “end game,”
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When it comes to your marriage…what kind of story are you hoping to tell? We all have a narrative unfolding in our most significant relationships. Are your storylines aimed at Greek tragedy, fairytale endings, or masterpiece classics? If your goal is a healthy relationship, let the story with your marriage be an ongoing
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Intimate relationships are not just about love. But without love, why would we even get involved? However, love needs constant nourishment to build its muscles. One of the ‘nutrients’ it needs is the ‘protein’ we’ll discuss here today. Intimate relationships require this nutrient Webster’s defines this ‘nutrient’ as “the obligation or pledge to
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How can one have a meaningful relationship without really knowing their partner? I submit that you can’t. A relationship requires commitment and no one commits to someone when they have no idea what they might do, how they think, what they value, and where the relationship might take the two of
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Would you call this a relationship conflict? Consider this scenario describing an all too common relationship conflict: “You’re not the person I married!” he yelled. “You used to take it — the pressure I mean. You’re home all day and all you have to do is look after the kids
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Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. ~ Abraham Lincoln What is the level of your marriage commitment? Investing in your marriage requires a commitment from all areas of life, especially those that directly touch on relationships. Some of these areas require some new insights — maybe even some coaching
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