How many recommendations have you had on how to choose a mate? Did they include using Match, E-Harmony or some other online dating service? Blind dates used to be a method, which could often turn out to be disastrous. Recommendations from friends, family — or heaven forbid, your boss — can
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Bobby Fischer astounded the world of chess. When playing for the World Championship in 1971, he achieved the first shutout in Grand Master play. He finally beat Boris Spassky for the World Title. In his book, Bobby Fischer Teaches Chess, he tells us we should focus on the “end game,”
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When it comes to your marriage…what kind of story are you hoping to tell? We all have a narrative unfolding in our most significant relationships. Are your storylines aimed at Greek tragedy, fairytale endings, or masterpiece classics? If your goal is a healthy relationship, let the story with your marriage be an ongoing
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Intimate relationships are not just about love. But without love, why would we even get involved? However, love needs constant nourishment to build its muscles. One of the ‘nutrients’ it needs is the ‘protein’ we’ll discuss here today. Intimate relationships require this nutrient Webster’s defines this ‘nutrient’ as “the obligation or pledge to
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How can one have a meaningful relationship without really knowing their partner? I submit that you can’t. A relationship requires commitment and no one commits to someone when they have no idea what they might do, how they think, what they value, and where the relationship might take the two of
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Would you call this a relationship conflict? Consider this scenario describing an all too common relationship conflict: “You’re not the person I married!” he yelled. “You used to take it — the pressure I mean. You’re home all day and all you have to do is look after the kids
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Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. ~ Abraham Lincoln What is the level of your marriage commitment? Investing in your marriage requires a commitment from all areas of life, especially those that directly touch on relationships. Some of these areas require some new insights — maybe even some coaching
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When emotions get involved (for good or ill) in our relationships, the intensity of the relationship’s experiences rise — usually, dramatically. Therefore, it is important to use emotions positively in relationships. Replacement Is a Great Way to Use Emotions Positively in Relationships Having trouble with changing your emotions? We cannot
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When it comes to parenting, are you relationship-building or mess-making? If you’re like most of us, the answer is “both,” depending on the time of day. But you and your child are writing a story together. It’s a story about your relationship, full of challenging circumstances, unlikely heroes and surprise endings. As
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Sometimes the differences in how we express love or wish to receive it are obvious. Such obvious examples include the difference between the cool (some say “icy”), calm, collected NT and the warm, expressive, sometimes scattered NF. The NFs usually welcome human touch and give it freely. However, the NTs
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Life has no meaning without emotion. Consider what a wedding celebration would be like without emotion being involved. Or what reason would there be to hold a funeral if there were no emotion to express about the deceased. For that matter, if there were no emotions involved, brussels sprouts would taste
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Emotions conflict often, and emotions cause and escalate a conflict. So where do we begin the process of sorting out this serious relationship factor? Let’s begin with how emotions play a part in decision making. Emotions Conflict Between “Thinkers” and “Feelers” We use the terms “thinkers” and “feelers” (T or
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