Positive personal change can feel pretty disorienting. In fact, big changes that reshuffle your priorities, methods, and relationships can even feel like a free fall. Ever experienced this sensation? Even trying to restore aspects of yourself back to their original “settings” can leave you stumbling to regain your footing. But
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What happens when you get used to something that you shouldn’t get used to? Over time, you can get used to just about anything — even if things aren’t as they should be. We can walk with an injured knee that doesn’t fully straighten, ignore a broken step we use
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Like me, you’ve asked and you’ve been asked, “How did you two meet?” Somehow that is always a fascination. But seldom — if ever — do we ask, “Where is your relationship going?” Or “What is your relationship direction?” Isn’t that a much more important question? What is our relationship
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This summer, I did a ton of driving. I’m not talking about the normal daily mileage laid down getting my kids to their litany of sporting events, lessons, and social engagements. I mean the kind of driving that puts you in a vehicle with your whole family, on old but
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Did you know that faith in yourself is a psychological necessity for mental health? Based on how our human system is designed, it’s imperative for experiencing fulfilling relationships and bursting through present limitations. But many of us struggle with the idea. Can it lead to becoming self-absorbed or misguided? Is
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Did you know that you’re full of beliefs that you can’t prove? Just think about how often you step on a plane and fly suspended by unseen forces for hours. Or consider how you believe in the presence of electricity even though you can’t touch it. You must have faith
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What do you find more challenging? Is guiding a colleague or resolving conflict at work any easier for you than working with your own family at home? Your co-workers typically don’t experience “You, the Home Version,” do they? The work version of you has chosen to adhere to standards of
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It’s easy to get sidetracked when an emotionally charged situation at work brings out someone’s worst, right? It happens once and you find a way to reason your way out of the muddy pit of negative they’ve created. “They must be having a really bad day,” you say. It happens
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All effective leaders do this. Loving parents find a way to do it even when kids are serving up their ugliest side. Even your spouse who wants to stay married to you finds a way to do this important thing for you in hard times. What about you? Do you
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You know those deep desires and urges within you that you couldn’t change even if you wanted to? I’m talking about those inner forces that seem to drive you from the inside out. Those are your X Factor. For example, the need to make plans and decisions lightning fast. Perhaps
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What if Goldilocks were a teenager, just learning to drive? What’s more, she’s your daughter. Like many of us whose kids are fast approaching driving age, you would eventually have to let her get in a car… by herself. Shed actually get to drive away, without you, into the big
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Goldilocks was onto something. We’ve been talking about course corrections in our lives and how they can be accomplished with the right use of some very sophisticated controls called inner strengths. These strengths are not just some catch phrase to describe the skills we acquire or good habits we adopt.
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