Why go for a “Real You” Mindset? Because it is a “clear” mind. With this mindset, you’re free to make choices based on a healthy self-image, not a distorted self-image that’s often caused when you experience failure or misunderstandings. A “Real You” mind stays focused on positive, helpful thoughts and beliefs. What’s more, it sets clear, measurable “Real You” goals that drive you forward into a sense of happiness and fulfillment. If that sounds good to you, let’s talk more.
The Role of Goals
We’ve been talking about how to pursue a “Real You” Mindset. If you haven’t had the chance to catch up, check out these posts before we move on to STEP 3.
STEP 1: Pursue “Real You” Thinking
STEP 2: Pursue “Real You” Focus
NEXT STEP: Pursue “Real You” Goals
Setting goals is essential because a life aimed at nothing in particular will hit nothing in particular. In fact, setting goals is actually the act of setting you in motion in a specified direction with a specified purpose. As live objects existing in a live universe, we are each in motion. So, we’ll falter if we lack clear direction. Your focus must be on clear, specific, and measurable goals that fit the Real You.
Aim Small, Miss Small
With limited time and resources, your best strategy for setting goals is to “Aim small, miss small.” More than just a memorable line from a movie, this little gem represents the best measure for setting goals that truly fit the “Real You.” They’re custom-made for you and require the use of specific inner strengths you’re designed to use every day. And, as the saying goes, the smaller and tighter your aim is, the less likely it will be that you miss your target.
Here’s an example. Let’s say you’re an “SJ” working on a complicated project that involves many moving parts and people. As an SJ, you’d gain a sense of accomplishment from creating order and process in disorganized or chaotic circumstances. You’d likely enjoy handling details, making plans, and proving yourself a reliable, helpful teammate. In this case, your goal setting must directly align with these important internal drives. In fact, these drives are a critical part of your inner design. So, the goals you’d set for the project would need to fit your SJ design.
- Rather than looking at opportunities to a make major impact (like an SP would prefer), you’d have concrete dates and times next to milestones that take you in order toward completing the necessary tasks involved. What’s more, you’d value doing your duty in the small things over making a lasting impression. Sure, recognition would be important to you. But it wouldn’t trump finishing the project on time.
- Instead of big-picture innovation and efficiency (like an NT would prioritize), you’d want a clear, defined objective for the project. And you’d insist on knowing as much as can be known about the desired outcome.
- And rather than the project existing as an opportunity for everyone involved to learn, grow, and exercise their potential (like an NF would desire), you might prioritize the undertaking for other reasons such as building infrastructure, establishing process, and setting regulations that ensure future success as well. In addition, you’d have clear roles defined with specific tasks so that individual contributions are clearly recognizable.
In the case of our example, setting good SJ goals would zero in on achieving important things for family, team, or community (all things that an SJ prioritizes). These goals would identify specific actions that prove you’re dutiful, responsible, and trustworthy. They’d also result in your producing the proof once again that your brand of help makes a real difference in concrete ways. These are the very achievements that generate a sense of satisfaction and true fulfillment for an SJ.
Setting “Real You” Goals
Notice in our example that regardless of your inner design (SJ, SP, NT or NF), setting clear, measurable goals can and should be directed by the same drives, preferences, and strengths that guide your life.
Whether it’s at home or at work, the strengths of your inner design are key to setting goals that fit you and move you forward. Whether you’re after life-changing outcomes, or simple changes to your daily behaviors, setting “Real You” goals also develops your Real You Mindset.
START HERE and IDENTIFY GOALS THAT FIT
- Take the free assessment to determine your inner design.
- Grab a copy of INNERKINETICS or one of the design-specific Kindle books that can educate you about your specific design and how you uniquely express the inner strengths that belong to that design.
SJ: The Real You – SJ
SP: The Real You – SP
NT: The Real You – NT
NF: The Real You – NF
- SET CLEAR, REAL YOU GOALS for developing your inner strengths. Start with your strongest strengths first. Each time you practice using your strengths, you are taking clear steps toward a “Real You” mindset. Here’s a handy table that lists core inner strengths for each inner design: