Intimate relationships are not just about love. But without love, why would we even get involved? However, love needs constant nourishment to build its muscles. One of the ‘nutrients’ it needs is the ‘protein’ we’ll discuss here today.
Intimate relationships require this nutrient
Webster’s defines this ‘nutrient’ as “the obligation or pledge to carry out some action or to give some support.” That’s it! SUPPORT that comes from a sense of obligation. Love loves (at times) anything that gives its ethereal emotions solid structure. That structure is the ‘nutrient’ of a commitment to stick with someone through the ups and downs of life no matter what. And we are talking the extreme ups and downs, the “till death do us part” ups and downs.
Commitment may look different to different temperaments
Commitment may look different to different temperaments. In an intimate relationship, commitment makes the SJ temperament feel secure and the SJ will return the commitment with eagerness. All temperaments profit from commitment, though some don’t give it the great emphasis it deserves. NTs commit differently than NFs. NFs commit differently than SJs, and so on. (Learn more about the commitment of different temperaments in INNERKINETICS, Your Blueprint to Excellence and Happiness). If you do not know what each of your temperaments are, be sure that each of you completes the InnerKinetics Temperament Key by clicking the button below and following through.
Define your commitment to your intimate relationship
Tell your partner you are committed. And then tell your partner what it means to you to be committed. If you will do this, your relationship should take a positive turn. If you are not committed, don’t expect commitment from your partner. Your relationship will fade quickly, and perhaps you should place it on ‘life support’ to avoid losing what you want to keep.
If you are not committed, go back to where you lost that sense of commitment. Discover the real reasons why it departed. Don’t blame your partner. Rather, find out what you did to contribute to the loss of commitment. You can’t retrieve the loss, but you can rebuild what is damaged — possibly to a relationship that is even stronger than before because you are now aware of this nutrient and are ‘ingesting’ it meaningfully.
An intimate relationship requires what YOU can do
Pay attention to what you can do, not what the other person should do. Look at it this way: Your personal integrity is at stake. Loss of personal integrity leads to much internal damage. It’s much worse than losing your credit rating!
Does your intimate relationship pass the test of commitment?
So, what kind of score would you give yourself for your level of commitment? On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest level, where does your commitment fall? Are the results of your commitment evident in your relationship? What can you change to increase your score?