If your intimate relationship is feeling anything but intimate and wonderful right now, you may be questioning your alternatives. Stop right there! Take a closer look! Even if your relationship is in a great place, you might want to listen up, too. That rocky relationship can turn around. And that wonderful one can get even better. It all has to do with how the two of you are caring for the relationship. Are you treating it like a prized possession?
Look at it this way: If you have moved many times in your life, you know how stressful it can be. Just one of the reasons for that is because you are concerned to protect your prized possessions, in particular. You take care to protect them by packing them carefully. You purchase insurance just in case — heaven forbid — they get damaged in spite of all you do to protect them. And you pay attention to each prized possession as you unpack and place it in its new home. But how do you treat your most important possession — your intimate relationship — whether it is during a stressful time or on an everyday basis? Do you treat it like a prized possession? If not, it is probably going to sustain some real damage.
Do you learn about your most prized possession?
In order to carefully treat and maintain a prized possession — like a luxury automobile, for instance — you study its user’s manual to learn how to take the best care of it. Have you studied the “user manual” for how to care for your intimate relationship?
The “user manual” for your relationship begins with a careful examination of its components, like the details on WHO each person in the relationship really is. What are the strengths that each of you bring to the relationship? How should you take care of and nurture those strengths to keep them in good condition and functioning to bring all the best to the relationship?
Start learning about your prized possession here.
Do you protect your relationship like a prized possession?
Knowing who each of you really is will help you to protect your relationship from being mishandled by others or yourself. For instance, an extroverted partner, without understanding how to help his or her mate who is an introvert, could subject their mate to too much interaction, causing their energy levels to be so depleted that they are literally desperate for energy in order to survive. The result is arguments and anger between them that would not normally occur when both partners are running on sufficient energy.
Furthermore, you need to understand your own needs clearly in order to help your partner understand your needs so that you can both work toward meeting each other’s needs in a way that protects your most important prized possession: your relationship. Protect your relationship with real understanding.
Do you nourish your relationship?
When you know clearly who each of you are and understand your strengths and what things stress each individual, you will also know how to nourish the relationship — how to bring out the best in each partner. Do you know, for instance, how your partner wants to be loved? Your partner is not you. You cannot assume that romance to your partner means the same thing that it does to you. And no, it is not a “male/female thing.” You cannot assume that “women like this” and “men like that.” Operate according to that rule and you are likely to have real trouble!
Do you know how to appreciate your relationship?
Appreciation is part of the nourishment that a relationship needs. And just like that luxury automobile, you must appreciate its value and its needs in order to treat it like the prized possession that it is and get the most out of it. Appreciation requires a commitment to the relationship that will inspire you to do all you can to make it the best it can be.
Here are some ways to learn how to treat your relationship like the prized possession that it is:
- Learn more about each other by reading INNERKINETICS, Your Blueprint to Excellence and Happiness
- Attend our relationship seminar, “What’s Love Got to Do with It?” We’ll be having some fun while learning how to make a good marriage better by covering some the areas above during the seminar. It will hold some surprises for you, but they will be surprises that produce good results. (Be sure you are subscribed to our weekly updates. As a subscriber, you will receive a code for a 20% discount on the event.)
- Each relationship is different because each person is unique. Therefore, a seasoned and knowledgeable guide is a resource you should not neglect when such important decisions are on the line. Personal relationship consultations are available. Just give us a call at 720-271-1221 to schedule a free introductory 30-minute consultation.